one last note to my fallen (read: risen) hero.
"Good Morning
everyone. On behalf of my mom Kathy, my brothers Joe and Chris and my sister
Maria, my grandparents Connie and Joe, my aunt and uncles Paul, Mark, Mary Ann and Steven, and everyone else in the extended Gallant and Fougere families, I want to thank
you all so much for being here to help celebrate the life of the greatest man
I’ve ever known. The love and support you have all shown us over these trying
days has been nothing short of incredible, and if I know my Dad at all, I know
he’s up there taking careful notes on everyone to whom he now owes favors.
"I’d like to
take the time now to say a few words about our father and I thought the best
way to do it might be to start from the beginning and tell you all a condensed
version of his story, the way I have always known it.
"On October
15th, 1956, in the city of Chelsea, MA, our Nana and Gramps welcomed
their first child into this world, a little baby boy. And like the generations
of first Gallant sons that came before him, they named him Joseph, but agreed upon
the common shortened form “Peter” for everyday use. Our dad grew up on the
North Shore in the city of Revere, and like all little boys, he brought an
abundance of joy and an endless supply of stress to our grandparents’ lives. There
was a story we have often been told of the time our dad decided he was bored
and wanted to stir up some trouble in his house by disguising himself and
pretending to steal a bike out of his own backyard. Upon hearing the ruckus
outside the house, Uncle Paul looked out the window and yelled to Gramps that
someone was out there stealing the bikes. Gramps immediately went outside and saw
what he thought was some hooded punk taking bikes from out of the yard. He began
to yell at the kid in not so many words to kindly put the bike down and get
away from his house, and instead of fessing up to the joke and giving himself
away, Dad decided to simply make a run
for it. He hopped on the bike and rode away as fast as he could with Gramps
chasing after him, yelling all sorts of colorful language as he tried so hard
to get his kids’ bike back from whatever ne’er-do-well stole it out of the
yard. At no point in this episode did our father stop and reveal himself, not
even after Gramps tore his Achilles tendon in the pursuit. He just kept riding,
all the way to the home of his Nana,
where she welcomed him in with open arms and, most likely, a plate of macaroni,
roast beef, and gravy.
"As Dad grew
over the years, so did the family at 88 Beach Street. He became the loving
oldest brother to my Uncle Paul, my Uncle Mark, my Auntie Mary Ann, and my
Uncle Steven. He fit that role so well and would often recount the evening he
sat in a rocking chair in our grandparents’ living room talking to Auntie’s
date, steadily rocking back and forth, fulfilling his brotherly duties by
giving the poor guy a death stare and doing what he could to intimidate him.
And even as the chair broke and slowly tipped over sideways and he ended up on
the floor, he continued to grill the kid about where they were going, what they
would be doing, and what time my aunt was expected back home.
"Dad attended
Malden Catholic High School, where he became a phenomenal football player. He then
attended UMass Amherst and, like many UMass freshmen, lived in a dorm room in
Central that Nana still to this day compares to a prison cell. He earned a
walk-on spot on the UMass football team, but somehow managed to absolutely
destroy his shoulder during practice and never actually saw any playing time.
So one day, in true Peter fashion, he boarded a Boston-bound protest bus and made
his way to the admissions office at Northeastern University, where he soon
started over as a student in the school of criminal justice and began to answer
his calling to a life in public service. It turned out that getting on that bus
was probably the best decision he ever made—his co-op experience as a summer
special led him to his very first years of police work in the Nantucket Police
Department, where he met fellow Officer Kathy Fougere, the love of his life, our mother. Dad married Mom on November 1st, 1985, and soon after
this they settled down and planted their roots in the greatest town on earth,
the city of Boston. Dad began an honorable 23-year career in the Boston Police
Department, while mom somehow found a way to balance a full-time job and life
in general with four crazy, beautiful children who were always vying for every
last fiber of her attention and sanity.
"In light of
recent national tragedies, there is a Mr. Rogers quote gone viral reminding us
all that we should always look for the helpers. Dad was a helper through and
through, and that was what made him so phenomenal at his job. His life was his
work, his work was his life, and he had a way of so gracefully combining his
world at home and his world on the police force so that they always
complimented each other, without ever letting one get into the way of the
other. I’m sure each one of us kids has a memory of watching the five o’clock
news and hearing another scary story about another bad guy somewhere in the
city, but resting easy because we knew if nothing else, our Dad would find him
and get him off the streets and the entire city, or at least the other five of
us at home with him, could once again sleep soundly under his protective watch.
He never failed to come to the aid of anyone who needed him, be it family,
friend, acquaintance, or stranger, and would at times be highly offended if he
was not the first one called to help take care of any situation, no matter what
the nature or size. His job was to protect his city, but his compassion and
caring nature as a husband, father, brother and son gave him the ability to
console that city as well.
"In a moment
of selfishness the other morning, I found myself infuriated, asking God why it
had to be him, why our dad, husband, brother and son had to be taken from us.
It did not take long for God to answer me. The world we live in today is far
from perfect—it is confusing, chaotic, and at times just downright scary for
all of us. Looking out at all of you today, there is no doubt he touched
countless lives while he was here on earth, but God needed to bring our Dad to
be with Him, where he can now do the most good for the greatest number of
people, where he can wrap himself around everyone at once and shield them from
the all the sorrow, hatred and despair that exists outside these walls, where
he can bring light and love to anyone in need, where he can rescue everyone
from the bad guys the way he rescued all of us for so long. And as I stand here
before all of you, I can almost guarantee he is sitting in his easy chair in
the clouds, cigar in his mouth, Fox News on TV, a plate of greasy Chinese food
on one side and his Nana’s macaroni, roast beef, and gravy on the other,
waiting for the next chance to comfort yet another troubled soul.
"I cannot
imagine trying to live life without my Dad by my side. And I guess I am very
lucky in that I will never have to know what it would be like to even try. His
body may be leaving us, but he exists within every person he has ever served
over his lifetime. All I have to do is look at my siblings and I see him
shining outward from each and every one of them. I see him in Joe’s ability to
calmly step up and take control in any crisis. I see him in Chris’ willingness
to come to the aid of anyone who needs it, asking no questions and passing no
judgment. And I see him in Maria’s contagious laughter and the way she can
brighten the darkest rooms and bring smiles to the saddest faces. As for me, I
can only hope I am able to be half as strong a support for my family as he
always was for all of us.
"His life was
too short, but his story is so long, and his legacy will be everlasting.
"Joe, Peter, Detective Gallant, Dad—enjoy your rest. May God
hold you the way you held us all your whole life. We love you, we miss you, and
we’ll see you soon."
My God....I just read this again. You are such a wonderful writer--you have such an incredible way of using your words to bring every reader into your world. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I love you so much.
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